In the World, Not of the World.
As Christians, we are called to be in the world, but not of the world (John 17:16). In many circles, this can make our beliefs seem outlandish or even foolish to some- and yes, it is so, so important to know what makes our behavior different from others and why it is so good that we behave in a way that is morally correct and pleasing to God! However, it seems to me that sometimes we don't think that our "in the world but not of the world" behavior applies even when we're around like-minded people.
Take, for instance, the classic example of the church parking lot: it is not okay to go directly from receiving Christ in the Eucharist to gossiping in the rows of cars outside! We all know this. And maybe for young people, it isn't such a huge issue. But how about other scenarios? Youth group, for instance...
Why are some people included in conversation, and others are cast aside?
Why are new attendees avoided instead of welcomed with open arms?
Why are people gossiping about others?
Why are friends bringing drama into friendships?
Why are friends pressuring other friends into relationships with other guys or girls in the group?
Why are some people learning about and living out their faith on youth group nights, but not living it out the next day at school?
Our being vigilant and ready to defend our beliefs and live our faith does not stop at the door of the church building. We are called to live our faith in all areas and all circumstances, no matter who we are with or what is going on.
I encourage you, today, to take a look at your relationships and activities with your own church friends, or youth group, and see if your friendships, pastimes, and behaviors are honoring God and His commands. I have had to do this numerous times in the past and distance myself from people as a result. It's not enjoyable, and it's a major sacrifice to distance yourself from people who are not leading you to Christ, even when they are friends from your church community. The Church is not exempt from sin. We're all sinners, and looking to Christ and following Him is our calling in life. How can we transform our relationships with others in our Parish community so that we are all leading each other to Heaven?
I pray that you have good, holy, Christ-centered relationships with your church family. It is truly such a great blessing to have friends that lead one another closer to Jesus! And if you don't have any of that type of friends yet... Be that friend to others, and know that there are thousands upon thousands of other Catholic teens out there who would be honored to be your friend! :-)